If you’re like me, you’ve been pacing back and forth in your bedroom for the past few weeks unsure of what the world will look like.
It’s been helpful for me to think in terms of what I can control—my health, my productivity, but perhaps most importantly, my skincare. Spring has started to sprinkle in through our collective windows, and the time for some well-needed cleaning is upon us. This weekend, I began with my beauty products – tossing expired items, opening others – and it’s kept my mind busy and my cabinets looking a bit more tidy. Below, are some tips I have for some best organizing hacks. The act of organizing has in turn, helped declutter my own mind and it’s helped lots with my own mental well-being. Hope it helps you, too.
Gather up all your beauty-related belongings and spread them out so you can see the scope of what you’re working with. For a beauty hoarder, this may mean you’re being exposed. But that’s okay! It’s good to take out everything you have and put it in front of you.
This helps for a multitude of reasons. For one, if you’ve been committed to a specific routine for a while, seeing everything you own can help inspire you to finally try a product that’s been sitting in the back rows of your cabinet. It can also push you to replace items you just don’t use. You can note this for the future and know that it’s not worth buying again. Instead, you can research and find better alternatives. A good site for discovering newness is Mira Beauty. The site is user-based and is organized by product category.
Finally, I like to group all products based on function to see what I have in excess or what I may be running low on. Now is a perfect time to get going on your spring skincare reset – and quarantining is a perfect excuse to do so.
Does this spark…joy?
Here comes the tough part. Like Marie Kondo before me, it’s time to ask ourselves which products are sparking *JOY* and which are simply filling the void. It’s important to do this for a few reasons. It sounds silly, but especially in trying times like these, but skincare isSELFcare, so take the time to really treat yourself with products you look forward to using. This doesn’t have to stop and end with how efficacious it is. You can use it simply because of the sensorial experiences: how it makes you feel, how it smells, or simply that it’s nice and comforting.
If you’re using products that don’t excite you, don’t use them! Another important reason to take inventory of your routine is that products have a shelf life and, if they’ve been sitting around for a while, they may not be as effective as they once were. Most products have an expiration date on them. Check the little jar icon (towards the bottom of most products) and it will tell you how many months the product is good for once opened. If not, check out Check Cosmetics here, and input each product.
Note that humidity does products no good and can lead to quicker product degradation. If you think you’ve had the product opened for longer than the expiration date, it’s not the end of the world, but the product is likely not going to be as effective. Better to toss it than treat your skin with skincare leftovers.
(Photo by Alex Levy/ Very Good Light)
How to organize – simplified
Now that you’ve thought about what products really get you excited to wash that beautiful face of yours, it’s time to figure out where to put everything to make it as easy as possible to use. This will be different for everyone, but look at what is necessary to keep in the bathroom and what can be kept elsewhere. Obviously, put products in places that make sense, that are easily accessible depending on when you use them.
If you use a cleanser in the shower, keep it in there. If you always find yourself slapping on a face mask before a bath, keep it in your bathroom cabinet. If you like applying a body lotion before bed, tuck it on your bedside table for easy access. Generally, the more you can keep products in cool, dark, dry places, the better they are for the product’s integrity. However, if you’re consistent in using that face oil after a bath, you’ll use it all before it degrades from any environmental exposure. Just don’t leave it there for two years and expect it to work the same.
Hopefully you’re able to de-clutter your beauty routine a bit—finding what works, organizing it to fit your habits—and now you’ve got some products to get rid of. You could throw them in the trash, but it’s 2020 and Mother Earth does not deserve that ignorance. Although beauty products are notoriously hard to dispose of, as they’re usually made of mixed materials which cannot be traditionally recycled, there are ways to properly dispose of products without clogging nature’s arteries.
Organizations like Terracycle are out there to make recycling as efficient as possible, so gather your beauty products to recycle, find your local Terracycle drop-off (check online for specific locations), or check them out directly to see how to get them your junk. I like to keep a bag underneath my sink and throw empty, expired, or unloved products in as I come across them. Once it’s filled to the brim, I’ll take it to my local drop-off and may just reward myself with some more skincare. So long, fare thee well, goodbye!
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Growing up, Carly Stein couldn’t take over-the-counter medicines due to an autoimmune condition.
That meant that for every cough, sneeze, or fever, she’d have to figure out other remedies to cure her condition. It was while studying abroad a few years ago that she came down with tonsillitis. Fearing she’d have to go back home, she searched her local pharmacy, hoping she might find anything to help. It’s there she found an ingredient that would change her life. It was bee propolis, what she was told had over 300 beneficial compounds, many supporting immunity. What was most incredible is that it wasn’t only natural, it was super efficacious at curing her tonsillitis.
It’s at that moment she realized others needed to know about this natural alternative as well. Back at home in Canada, she searched far and wide and couldn’t find bee propolis readily available.
“It’s crazy to me that people live clean lives when it comes to their diet, beauty products and homes, yet when it comes to being sick, turn to remedies with harmful toxins and chemicals,” she tells Very Good Light.
She has a point. In an industry obsessed with vegan and clean ingredients, the same energy isn’t put into over-the-counter drugs or synthetics we put into our bodies. As such, she decided to quit her then position at Goldman Sachs and launch her own brand called Beekeeper’s Naturals.
But for those worrying about the health of bees, fear not. Being a sustainable beekeeper is actually helping bees to survive and thrive. It’s no secret that in the past few years, global bee populations have declined due to wide uses of pesticides, climate change, which leads to habitat loss. Because of that, 1 in 4 bees are at risk for extinction. Recently, almond farms have come under the microscope after being accused of overworking bees – to death. Other farmers feed bees with sugar water, which weakens their health. “We make sure we never over harvest, from our hives always ensuring our bees have plenty of their own foods to stay healthy and thrive,” she says.
This means that she partners with “green apiaries,” that is sustainable bee farms, which provide 5 miles for bees to forage with plants that are free from pesticides.
“In the big picture, sustainable beekeeping serves the greater health of all pollinators—it promotes an awareness of dangerous, pollinator-harming pesticides and supports healthy habitat maintenance,” Carly tells us. “By buying sustainably-sourced bee products like honey and propolis, you are speaking volumes with your dollars. The greater the demand for sustainable bee products, the greater the incentive for large-scale beekeepers to adopt more sustainable practices—which would be a win for everyone, especially the bees.”
But do her products actually work?
In short – yes, they really do. So much so that I was compelled to immediately write about the amazing results. Beekeeper’s Naturals couldn’t come at a better time, when people are attempting to boost their immune systems. For an entire month, I tested the brand’s classics: B. Powered Superfood Honey, Propolis Throat Spray, and its newest, which launches today: B. Soothed Cough Syrup.
First of all, can I just say that every single one of these products tastes better than candy?
Let’s start with the B. Soothed Cough Syrup. Obviously, honey is a sweet-flavored product, but the B. Soothed Cough Syrup was sugary but not too saccharine, a little tart from its elderberry, and had an umami flavor profile thanks to its chaga mushrooms. But it doesn’t end there. The syrup – free from drugs, chemicals, refined sugars, dyes, and more – also includes pure buckwheat honey, a super powerful and antioxidant-rich honey. As Carly tells us: “Its antioxidant count rivals honeys that of widely acclaimed therapeutic honeys like manuka—which is why I like to call it ‘North America’s manuka.'”
One morning, I woke up with a sore throat. Like many world citizens, I panicked, thinking that I probably had symptoms of COVID-19. I took this cough syrup and it immediately coated my throat. So much so, that there was instant relief. After two days, my throat was back to normal. How could this be true? What witchcraft was this?
As Carly explains, it works because of its superpower ingredients taken together. Elderberry is an amazing source of Vitamin C, a known ingredient to ward off colds, as well as a powerful antioxidant. Together with Chaga mushrooms, which heal and boost immune systems, they are potent for getting the body back to tip top shape.
How do I 100% know that this product actually isn’t a placebo? I also had my parents, who had the same symptoms, take it and at the end of the third day, we all had no more throat soreness.
While taking spoonfuls of the delicious cough syrup day and night, inbetween, we used the Propolis Throat Spray. It was like a spritz of sugar down your throw – a pleasant if not seemingly sinful experience. Propolis is great for cleaning the system, and has been used for centuries to keep immunity going strong. For bees, propolis is lined on hive walls to keep germs out. Not only did this remedy any pain, it was such a pleasure to use, I found myself spritzing my mouth even when I didn’t need to. Don’t judge.
This is a product my family’s been taking every day for the past month. Not only does it have raw honey, it’s also royal jelly (what the queen bee eats!), pollen, and propolis. It’s now become a part of my family’s daily regimen, with over 300+ beneficial compounds. A small amount every morning goes a long way. For the past month, I’ve been feeling stronger, more energetic, and less sickly – even from allergies. Not only that, I find myself thinking better as well. When I asked Carly about this, she said it only makes sense. Royal jelly contains 10-HDA, an ultra unique fatty acid that is said to nourish the brain, clarifying it in the process. Not only does this help my body, it’s truly been a godsend for working from home and focus.
Beekeeper’s Natural, how obsessed am I?! Honestly, I’ll never go back to synthetic, chemical-filled cold remedies after this. One taste of the B. Soothed Cough Syrup, I was hooked. So much so, Lighters, I had to write a review about this – even if it isn’t traditionally a beauty product. Why? Because it works.
If you’ve watched The Ellen Show recently, you’ve probably been thoroughly entertained by Kalen Allen, the show’s newest – and might we add, most delightful – addition.
The correspondent now interviews bands from BTS, has his own segment OMKalen, and gives his personal hot take on what’s trending on the Internet. All this happened in only the past year, where the 24-year old correspondent was plucked off of his viral Facebook videos where he judged people’s cooking recipes.
“It all happened by chance and the short answer is I got lucky!” he tells Very Good Light. “I made a video about some food one night. It went viral, Ellen saw it, and I had a brand new job and home.”
But getting on Ellen and inspiring millions came after years of accepting – and embracing – who he was as a person. “I live my life based off of the energy I feel,” he tells us. “I don’t do anything that doesn’t make me feel good! To love and accept myself made me happy and that was of the upmost importance to me.”
And one of those aspects is self-care, as seen from Kalen’s glowing skin regimen. Below, the correspondent tells us everything about his skincare, what products he swears by and why it’s important now more than ever to embrace yourself.
“I am whoever I choose to be.
I think I have many different personas. I’m always changing, evolving, and growing. Who I am today can be totally different tomorrow. But I do know that I am optimistic, resilient, strong, and a boss!I know deep down, that my disdain for the gym is rooted in the fact that I hate the beauty standards associated with it. I don’t have to have a fit, muscular body to be beautiful. Beauty is defined by our own perception.
live my life based off of the energy I feel. I don’t do anything that doesn’t make me feel good! To love and accept myself made me happy and that was of the upmost importance to me.
When we start to base beauty on what other people consider beautiful, that is when our perception gets skewed. Confidence can be beauty all in itself. You ever met someone who may be the most plain person you ever met, but the way they carry themselves or their personality as a whole just makes your heart sing! Beauty isn’t always cosmetic, it can be what lives within you shining out, causing internal beauty to seep from your pores.
My skin’s not flawless all the time! Chile, somedays I have to bathe in holy water! My friend Tony loves a good hydra facial and I am now obsessed with them. It’s nonsurgical and it brightens, tones, and makes that skin glow. Clearly I like to glow. When it comes to my regimen, it varies depending on what my skin needs at the time. But, it goes a little something like this.
I learned about this product after redeeming points at Sephora. My skin is neither oily or dry but more so in the middle and this cleanser does a great job of giving me just the right amount of moisture.
I’m currently in Colorado, in a city that confirmed its third case. But I’ve also been in contact with people at the supermarket, and having to go back and forth to another city due to a death in the family. Without the luxury of being indoors 24/7 for the past two weeks, there’s no doubt that I’ve been in spaces that the COVID-19 virus could have lingered.
It’s horrifying to read studies that find the virus and remain in the air for up to three hours. Worse, it can survive up to four-hours on copper, 24-hours on cardboard, and up to two or three days on plastic and stainless steel. Essentially, this virus isn’t playing around – it’s serious.
But with mixed messages from our president, a shortage of COVID-19 tests, and phone lines to doctors tied up, the best you can do is fend for yourself, self-diagnose or spiral. Which is why it was so amazing to discover that Ro, the telehealth company, offers free video consultations with real doctors. Called a “free telehealth triage service,” it’s one that provides you with a one-on-one video chat with an expert.
This service is a game-changer for so many reasons. For one, if your symptoms aren’t serious, you can unburden the phone lines to those who need emergency help. It also frees you from exposing yourself or others to potential illnesses by walking into a hospital or doctor’s office. For someone with “low-risk,” that is an individual who hasn’t been exposed to people in the past few weeks, it could even be more dangerous to visit said doctors IRL.
This past weekend, I took Ro’s offer to assess myself. I woke up with a sore throat and a stuffy nose, unsure if this was allergies (it is the season!), or, perhaps, something more nefarious.
First, I took Ro’s assessment, which asks you questions on your symptoms, if you’ve been exposed to someone with related symptoms, or traveled outside the state/country. Afterwards, I received a text informing me the doctor was in and that I could connect with them.
Below, my experience with Ro’s triage assessment, who matched me with Dr. Smith, a physician in Tennessee. And now, for Very Good Light readers, you, too, can talk to an online doctor for free. Just check out covid.ro.co/vgl.
David: With this virus, it’s really scary because you can go asymptomatic for days – or weeks. Where can you get tests?
Dr. Smith: New York is limiting testing for asymptomatic people. But you can be incubating for 7-10 days and potentially spread the virus when you’re asymptomatic. I agree with the whole stay at home and don’t go out unless you have to. This prevents spreading to someone who is at-risk or more susceptible to it.
D: Sneezing isn’t a symptom?
DS: The big thing is the dry cough, fever, tightness of the chest. It’s not to say someone with COVID-19 doesn’t have sneezing. But I’d say you’re safe. Don’t touch your face, practice social distancing, wash your hands, don’t go out in the public unless you have to. Even in the home practice distancing, no hugging as well.
D: How do we flatten the curve?
DS: If people follow the rules, if you’ve seen the spring breakers, it’s disheartening. But once testing is widely available, unfortunately, I think we’ll find more people actually have the virus. That will further show the scope of what’s happening.
I think flattening the curve will happen if people heed the warnings. There are a subset of people who don’t think it’s real and think it’s just like the flu. Unfortunately, those are the Americans who are going to get others in trouble.
DS: I think it’s going to go on at least for another 3-4 months. I think two weeks is sort of an opening of the door to prevent the spread. It’s going to take more than that. Looking at the situation in China and Italy, we’re going to parallel that. It’s not going to be an major concern until at least July.
D: Talk to me about high risk people.
DS: Any age past 50 or with anyone with immune issues regardless of age, that’s a high risk part of the population. I would say 70 and above are at high risk.
D: More than the virus, I feel it’s taken an emotional toll on people. For me, I realize I haven’t wanted to go to bed in fear that the next day I’d wake up with chills or a fever.
DS: I can share that with you. I look at Worldometer and looks at the cases around the planet so I think to a certain extent, just focus on something else before you go to sleep, which affects your sleep, which affects your immune system. Make sure you stay well hydrated. Take a zinc supplement. Hydroxychloroquine or chloroquine has been used for SARS in the past but Dr. Fauci from the CDC he’s being cautiously optimistic about it. There have been trials done to see if it does make a difference or with safety with it.
D: What would you suggest to people who do exhibit symptoms?
DS: Self-quarantine for two weeks, don’t just go to an emergency room. People call because of the fear. They don’t have concerning symptoms and just want to talk to someone to be reassured that they don’t have it or have increased risk. I think it’s peace of mind. A lot of practices have the abilities to do a test to say, an Urgent Care. In this situation they’re working on a point of care test, a courier has to take it, they then test it. It’s 48-72 hours and you can imagine the fear and stress of waiting for it to come back. A lot of it is evaluating the person as a whole, their risks and their symptoms. I’m disappointed that testing hasn’t been widely available in the United States. Here locally in Tennessee they were doing drive-thru testing but again, you won’t get results by the time you leave.
DS: There’s been some concern with ibuprofen decreasing the immunity’s response. In one way, a lot of people think a fever is a bad thing but it’s the body’s attempt to get rid of the virus. A coronavirus is heat-sensitive, a fever is the best defense against it. I would stick with Tylenol because it’s not an anti-inflammatory and not use an Aleve or Motrin.
D: So, just to be clear: you don’t think I have COVID-19?
DS: Unless you have a fever or tightness of the chest, I don’t think what you’re exhibiting is COVID-19.
D: Thank you, doctor! Be safe.
Get your own assessment with Ro x VGL’s free COVID-19/coronavirus assessment here: covid.ro.co/vgl
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I began binge-watching the show until its reunion episode and as I ate my Pringles, drowned it with a gulp of La Croix thought this question could very well translate to my beauty products. With my hands that I washed for no less than the length of singing “Happy Birthday” in its entirety, I reached for a beauty product and pumped it into my pores. It was Hanacure’s new Nano Emulsion moisturizer, the second product in its lineup. Could this beautiful product, with its minimal, clean, all-white packaging, prove that love is blind? Or would I be affected by the fact that this was from the same brand that created an absolute sensation with its All-In-One-Facial.
(Photo by David Yi / Very Good Light)
To refresh you, Hancure’s All-In-One-Facial is the same you’ve probably seen somewhere on Facebook or Instagram. You can catch the review here. With its serum mixed with a gelling solution, the product tightens your skin and shrivels it so tightly, you resembled Betsy DeVos. But the product works! Afterwards, you get not only a gleaming complexion, but skin so taut, you’re like a newly birthed child. It’s why celebs from Drew Barrymore to the Kardashians have endorsed it.
The formula’s supposed to drench your pores with instant hydration, leaving your skin dewy and moisturized for the entire day.. More so, it’s supposed to improve your skin’s appearance and tone. The secret sauce? Its peptides mixed with a mushroom called antrodia cinnamomea, aka “Ruby of the Forest.” The mushroom is so elusive, its trees it’s grown on are protected by the Taiwanese government. Supposedly, the mushrooms alone account for over $100 million in sales, with there being a general consensus that it cures ailments including cancer.
That being said, could it work on my crusty AF face? It’s been a long and dreary winter and with a certain flu becoming a global pandemic, I’ve been over-cleansing my hands, wrists, and face as a pre-caution. As such, my face in particular has been screaming for a drench of moisture.
(Photo by David Yi / Very Good Light)
At first pump, the creamy formula soaked into my pores as quickly as a kernal of oatmeal soaks water. I instantly felt dewy, plump, as if I went to a facial. The product is oil-free and as such, it’s lightweight, not unlike water, and feels like nothing when wearing it on your face. It’s fragrance-free, and for some that may be a problem – natural scents aren’t always a winner. But I felt as if this one wasn’t offensive and at the very least, is an amazing first step before an SPF or night cream, so that point becomes moot.
While totally providing me with instant moisture, I don’t know if this product alone will last me from day to night. I’m currently in Colorado, one of more barren states in the country, where the climate seems so soak out any moisture for your skin cells. I do feel that this is great for the summertime. As an emulsion, it’s probably all you need in wet and humid climates and perfect for allowing your skin to breathe.
Love isn’t blind, I concluded for this review. But love can be sparked on first sight, alone. As for the Hanacure nano emulsion moisturizer? Yes, I will be keeping it in my beauty arsenal – perfect for that extra step before a heavy cream – on those nights when all I care to do is luxuriate in my thoughts, be one with my skin, with a delightful television show blasting in the background.
(Photo by David Yi / Very Good Light)
So uh, does the Hanacure Nano Emulsion Moisturizer ~actually~ work?
-Instantly provides you with moisture.
-Lightweight and soaks into skin really well.
-Doesn’t last all day, but great for a first-step to a heavier moisturizer.
In a new special monthly column with Byrdie Boys, Very Good Light’s own editor, David Yi, writes about beauty from the inside out. This space is all about celebrating inner and outer light, and what that means from a beauty lens.
The day Very Good Light launched was the day I realized I’d become an imposter.
That Tuesday, planted on the front page of the New York Times Stylesection, was none other than me and a photograph of my bad side (like Ariana Grande, it’s our right) gazing at the camera as if I was someone special.
I give a self-assured smirk, learned from watching way too many Kpop videos, and hunch my shoulders with a hint of bother, an attitude perfected through my years of being a fashion editor. My head shorn on the sides with the top mane slicked back, I’m wearing a silk crimson and black Saint Laurent jacket that I’ll later return to Barney’s (sorry, Barney’s! RIP!). I look like some glamorous Brooklyn entrepreneur. A Crazy Rich Asian. A guy who has it all together.
Or complete fake.
Who is he?
Who isn’t he?
In reality, I had no clue who he was. I had yet to find my own light. The guy on those pages was certainly not the man sitting at this Prospect Heights cafe in Brooklyn, frantically looking over his finances, with cold, anxiety-sweat dripping down his round cheeks (or were those tears?).
I had just left my cushy full-time with a big announcement, that I was launching a men’s beauty site all about redefining masculinity. We’d tell stories about the new male experience, diverting from a traditional, suffocating heteronormative lens. It should be about untethering men from toxic masculinity and showcasing what freedom could look like.
This was 2016, years before #metoo, #timesup or any viral Gillette commercial and people were confused. What do you mean, redefine masculinity? What’s wrong with it now? And a beauty site for men? Men need that kind of advice?
“The guy on those pages was certainly not the man sitting at this Prospect Heights cafe in Brooklyn, frantically looking over his finances, with cold, anxiety-sweat dripping down his round cheeks (or were those tears?)”
The greater good, I’d reply, was to create a safe space for all masc-identifying people to be free and channel their authenticity. Whether that’s equipping yourself with lipstick or a brow gel, beauty wasn’t just skin-deep. Beauty, after all, was about self-respect, self-love and self-awareness. More so, beauty was all about coming to terms with who you were, shining your light from the inside out. My hypothesis was if we empowered men to embrace their softness and allow them to be their true selves, the world starts to change.
From that guiding light, the name was born. Very good light wasn’t just about vanity – how to tease those brows or find that perfect foundation. It was about finding and nurturing that inner light, that powerful confidence, with the sole purpose of making this world a less dark place.
“I realize that resilience breeds beauty and true beauty comes from being able to endure your greatest challenges.”
A few years later – with lots of laughs, many tears, nights sleeping on friends’ couches not knowing where I’d be next – the world has vastly changed. It’s become a more inclusive, empathetic and pretty world. Men are starting to embrace their beauty and flaunt it like no other time in recent history. In Seoul, guys refuse to leave their homes without penciling in their brows and applying a B.B. cream. On red carpets, more and more Hollywood heartthrobs like Ansel Elgort are wow-ing audiences by wearing a face full of glitter on red carpets. And on YouTube channels everywhere, the biggest stars – not only in beauty – are men who beat, blend and bake their faces until they shine for the gods. Bretman Rock, a beauty mogul and makeup artist, is one of the biggest influencers, just having launched a collaboration with Wet N’ Wild. But it doesn’t end there.
Thanks to social movements advocating for inclusion, beauty has become big business. Major brands and corporations are all taking notice of men’s beauty. From Cover Girl and its first “Cover Boy,” James Charles, Chanel debuting its first makeup line just for guys, to Milk Makeup’s take on makeup for all, the beauty boy explosion is no longer niche – it’s mass market. It’s this shift that Very Good Light has been documenting since its inception and it’s so exciting to have championed this movement.
“With lots of laughs, many tears, nights sleeping on friends’ couches not knowing where I’d be next.”
Since, millions call Very Good Light their home. In many ways, the site has become a refuge for all masculine-identifying people who seek to explore identity, empowerment – myself included. And after four years, we’re finally finding recognition.
For one, we’re collaborating with brands like Byrdie in a monthly co-published column called “Byrdie Boys.” Every month, Byrdieand Very Good Light will celebrate masculine-identifying people and what sparks their own good light through a beauty lens. We’ll explore what beauty means from products to people.
In 2020, I can’t help but sigh with relief and beam with pride that Very Good Light has survived. We’re still here, pushing culture forward, embracing beauty in all forms. Though the world has changed, I for one, haven’t. Still feeling like an imposter – a fake – I turn to this community of masculine-identifying people to provide me with the empowerment I need to face another day. Along with this community I realize that I no longer am forced to hide in the shadows, rather, can and should be celebrated, just like everyone else. I realize that resilience breeds beauty and true beauty comes from being able to endure your greatest challenges. Everyone deserves to be spotlighted, everyone is entitled to their shine. Everyone has very good light. This column’s for all of that and more. Let’s set the world on fire.
Turns out, your gut instinct is more powerful than you ever thought.
One study suggests that leading with your gut, or “intuition” works, backed by ~science~. That’s because “intuition” is actually a decision not based on feeling – or that nebulous area of your stomach – rather, from information stored in your long-term memory bank. Meaning, your ultimate “gut decision” comes from experience. Leading with your gut actually pays off, at least according to this study by the Harvard Business Review. The findings point to how startup founders to investors all go by said gut-feeling and are successful at making decisions.
I’ve reaffirmed that my own gut instinct is questionable – like when it comes to buying a new bottle of Biologique Recherche or not. But when it comes to my own literal gut, I have no thoughts at all. That’s because I feel my guts – aka all the body parts down there – are by and large forgotten. Which is hard to admit, since I’m a beauty journalist.
As a beauty enthusiast, I’ve had the privilege of researching new technologies stemming from Seoul, learning more about microbiome and skin barrier health, to debunking “clean beauty” and its claims. But what I’m still lacking in is knowledge regarding beauty from the inside out. I’m relatively clueless when it comes to probiotics, digestion, or something important like gut bacteria.
That all changed three months ago when a new startup called Seed, introduced me to its Daily Synbiotic. The Daily Synbiotic includes both probiotics and prebiotics. In tandem, they interact with your human and existing bacterial cells to help your gut thrive.
If you were confused over the difference between prebiotics and probiotics, you wouldn’t be alone. The difference is that prebiotics are plant-based compounds that either “feed” beneficial bacteria in your gut to promote their growth, or interact with them to create new compounds that are beneficial to your health. Probiotics, on the other hand, are living microorganisms that have been studied extensively to impact your health, from your gut to your skin to your heart.
(So can two capsules change your life? We tried Seed Daily Synbiotic, which comes in this eco-friendly packaging. Your first 30-day comes in a refillable glass jar, and each subsequent monthly refill arrives in biodegradable packaging. Can someone say CHIC? Photo by Chad Chisholm/ Very Good Light)
And to get your gut to sing hallelujah Amen!Seedcreated its Daily Synbiotic, what the brand says is the “evolution of probiotics.” According to Seed, each two-capsule dose has a total of 53.6 billion AFU (that is, Active Fluorescent Units used to measure viable probiotic cells). Each of the beautiful emerald colored capsules includes 24 probiotic strains nested inside another capsule of prebiotics—purified from Indian pomegranate and then bio-transformed by gut microbes for an even more potent one-two punch to the gut.
The result is this: A proprietary formulation of naturally-occurring probiotic strains backed by strain-specific clinical trials (in other words, verified to work!).
But does it work?!
For the next 60 days, I went on this Daily Synbiotic journey to discover if gut health really did help with skin and overall well-being. At first, I was a little nervous as the capsules are really potent. So much in fact, that Seed told me to start with one capsule a day for three days, then move on to two. Some possible side effects include light stomach cramping to constipation. I’m not certain if it was the salty foods I was eating or if it was the capsules, but the first week I did feel as if my stomach wasn’t normal. It felt as if a little bloated, as if I had pumped a little helium down my throat. After a week, I started taking two a day and didn’t feel anything. I also didn’t know if anything was working.
Then, I woke up energized, with mental clarity, almost as if I’d slept for 9 hours, not the usual 5 I’m used to. I also noticed I could work longer throughout the day without fatigue or that dreaded 3 o’clock slump.
But most fascinating of all was that my skin started clearing. Yes, it became beautiful. I have the occasional cystic bumps here or there, but it was seriously magical to notice my face becoming more even-toned, without the angry sprouts here or there. In fact, after 60 days I had a photoshoot to prove that these capsules ~worked~! Here’s a close-up to prove (with me testing Charlotte Tilbury’s eyeshadow palette, lol):
(Photo by Chris Chisholm/ Very Good Light)
At the end of 60 days did I feel like a new person? No – I’m human and still have my daily anxieties, pitfalls and sins. But did I feel as if my health was changing anew? Oh, for sure. Not only did my skin clear – without having to use any harsh drugs 🙁 – my energy allowed me to face the day and make split second decisions. And good ones at that. Turns out, no, I didn’t need to buy an extra bottle of Biologique Recherche. That definitely was a decision made completely by my gut instinct. Changed anew? I’d think so. Thanks, Seed.
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Twitter came after him for his skincare video. What came next is beautiful.
He never thought that upon opening Twitter he’d become a viral sensation.
Certainly, not target of hate. But on that morning, he found himself the subject of tweets like, “but fellas, is this gay?” and “THIS N**** GAY”. It wasn’t something offensive he said – it was over a hydrofacial video.
It was supposed to be just another day for Curtis Brooks. The 25-year-old bartender and personal trainer from Massachusetts was gearing for work. He opened his phone to see a video of himself receiving a facial being retweeted by the hundreds. Suddenly, Curtis was becoming a viral sensation faster than he could keep up with.
While Twitter can certainly bring someone down – the platform has become one fueled by bandwagoning –Curtis says he was unbothered. As he explains it, the video was taken months ago and posted by his favorite place to treat himself, Vanity Lab Med Spa in Fall River, Massachusetts. Despite Curtis having his own feelings of what the facial looked like, he never thought his hydro-facial would spark such interest.
“I don’t get offended,” says Curtis. “I was just upset because no one was tagging me or the spa and asking our permission.” Instead, he tried to take it in stride – and humor. “It’s almost like, you’re going to make fun of me because I love skincare? Sorry I take care of myself.” While the Twitter trolls were trying to get their homophobic comments in, questioning someone’s masculinity from self-care, Curtis made the entire situation positive. In turn, it caused people to take a step back and re-think about their hateful preconceived notions.
With the newfound visibility, he decided to take the opportunity post his weight loss journey and skincare tips. People instantly became incredibly supportive and helped him educate the haters. He even created his own hashtag, #CUMONITSJUSTAFACIALwhile urging people to tag Vanity Lab Med Spaand himself.
“As soon as I said something and made it known I wasn’t taking it, people started to notice,” Curtis tells Very Good Light. “People wanted to know what my diet plan is, my workout plan, and yeah, my skincare routine!” Curtis also wanted to make it known that he is proud of his sexuality and is happily married to his husband, Torey. He wanted to show everyone, their words didn’t matter with tweets like ‘100% a gay baby and I serve face on insta @curtkobangs’ and ‘me after my facial >.’ Curtis believes when people say ‘that’s so gay’ it stems from insecurities and misinformation. And when it comes down to it he says, people are shockingly unaware of how they can affect people with their words.
“I’m such a positive person, I’m actually glad this happened to someone like me so I have the opportunity to turn it into something great,” says Curtis. “This has honestly been a blessing in disguise, I was already thinking about starting a YouTube channel and figuring out ways for me to further spread my love and positivity. This was the motivator for me to really start.”
With so much regard for self-love, we needed to know what masculinity means to Curtis. “Masculinity is feeling strong, the ability to have will-power, folding when needing to fold and realizing when you might be wrong in life, he tells Very Good Light. It’s taking care of yourself, owning everything that has to do with self-love. You simply can not care for others and spread love into the world without loving and respecting yourself first.”
At the end of it all, Curtis kept his #1 rule close to him. “No matter how much love you push onto people, you can’t push them to accept the love. You can only control your own actions. The best thing we can do is love ourselves and remember people’s opinions are only opinions.”
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Twitter came after him for his skincare video. What came next is beautiful.
The other day, I was browsing through Netflix and thought of something profound: What SPF would these characters wear on their pretty faces?
It might be slightly neurotic – okay, maybe bordering obsessive – but skincare and heartthrobs make for a very happy me. While rewatching You Season 2, I couldn’t help but wonder how Joe keeps his skin so eventoned even while he frolicks about in the daytime. Then I went back and watched Schitt’s Creek, amazed at David’s own skin, wondering what a once wealthy socialite would resort to after losing it all. And of course, I thought deeply about Peter from To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before. Beautiful, dopey, and down-to-Earth, what SPF would he choose from the many on drugstore shelves?
You is a character study in stalker behavior and I, for one, wouldn’t (or … would??) want to be Joe’s object of affection. One thing I can get behind? His radiant, blemish-free skin (Aside from when he’s covered in blood from, you know, murdering people) and being the meticulous person he is, there’s no way he would forgo SPF. Joe is probably both disgruntled and intrigued by popular brands and would absolutely try the ultra-popular brand Supergoop! to fit into the LA scene. In his case, it’s Unseen Sunscreen because, you know, he wants to be discreet and invisible to the world. This one goes on seamlessly without any residue or evidence you’re wearing anything at all.
David knows luxury, though he had to give everything up. It’s easy to believe he’d splurge on an expensive SPF like La Mer while probably saving himself from other things like new clothing – the man really knows how to recycle looks! The brand-conscious, high-society exile definitely uses the pricey and much-raved-about brand for his daily SPF protection. Yes, even if it’s not stocked at Rose Apothecary!
Mike, Will, Dustin, and Lucas probably haven’t thought twice about sunscreen, but we know their overbearing parents do! Since they’re always riding their bikes around, hiking up crazy hills and uh, defeating perilous monsters, it’s good their parents force them with an SPF 100+ to get them through the day. This one from Neutrogena is so long-lasting it’ll get them from morning to night, to their next adventure.
Eric was introduced as the trusty and wonderful sidekick to protagonist Otis but has quickly become a stand-out character on this often wild and heartfelt show. Eric’s boisterous nature and affinity for putting together straight-up amazing outfits show he puts time and energy into the things and people he loves. It also makes it entirely plausible that he’s just as opinionated and loyal about his choice of sun protection as he is towards other aspects of his life. Found in every pharmacy in the UK, this accessible and long-lasting sunscreen would definitely be Eric’s trusty pick of the bunch. Just like he’s a committed, lifelong friend to Otis, this hard-working SPF is easily there for Eric.
While Fezco’s quite busy being a full-time drug dealer – and often looking out for Rue as well –that doesn’t mean he’s impervious to the sun’s harmful rays. He does run a small convenience store— which operates as the front for his more lucrative business, so we can totally see him reaching for this affordable and simple sunscreen, leaving him with a radiant glow while he goes about his business.
It’s easy enough to find at a local convenience store and offers enough non-greasy protection for a non-committed guy looking for a simple sunscreen that gets the job done. While Jung’s attempting to stay on the right track after his period of teenage rebellion and reconnecting with his family, his efforts should also extend to daily UV protection! He can definitely find this brand in Canada as well, so there’s no reason for him to skip the sunscreen. Plus, Shannon is bound to be impressed with his developing skincare routine.
Schmidt is a fancy guy and is likely to buy a sunscreen that looks offers more than the normal spray or lotion. He likes to take care of his appearance and would like how this SPF offers minimal coverage along with sun protection. As he navigates his humorous, crazy roommate situation, he doesn’t often get too much sleep, often participating in a variety of antics instead. Out of his three roommates, he’s the most likely to want a sensorial experience – like a brush. For that, he turns to Eminence Organic’s mineral powder.
Peter is doofy, loveable, and super dependable. His lowkey, no-fuss style makes us feel he wants something to match his personality. This one from Cetaphil is affordable, easy to use, and equally loveable – its formula goes on easy without a greasy residue. When he isn’t thinking about school, sports, or his love for Lara Jean, it’s his protecting his skin that he thinks about most.
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Awkward sex makes for juicy (or cringe-worthy, you tell us!) stories.
We asked Very Good Light’s own Lighters on Instagram to send in their most daring experiences – ones that they lived to tell! From a story about a host family, to one involving a boss’ desk, to another involving someone’s mother – ya’ll, brace yourselves. Sex: sometimes it’s really freaking funny.
I’ve always had fantasies of having sex in someone’s office. I just didn’t know it’d be so awkward.
I met this guy who invited me on a weekend to come meet with him at his office. We met on the ground floor and he took us up to his workplace. Inside were dozens of cubicles and it seemed like a standard place of work. I asked where his office was, which is when he admitted that he actually didn’t have an office – we’d be having sex in his boss’s office.
While in theory that could be hot, I realized it wasn’t cool when we were on his desk, exchanging slobber all over his floor and bodily fluid. He was so cool and casual about it and all I could think about is how pissed I’d be if I found dried splooge on my desk Monday morning.
The Host (Family)
A few years ago, I met up with this Mexican exchange student who lived in this really big house. He told me to come over and before I did, I asked if he was alone. He assured me it would be all fine and that I was in the clear to come over.
We ended up sneaking into this office, where I realized there were photos of his host family. They looked super kind and really sweet. I felt really weird having sex while all the lights were on, their photos staring back at me.
The sex was okay and it was fun until I heard a crowd of people walking through the door.
“Who’s that?!” I asked, super paranoid.
“Oh, just my host family.”
“Do they know I’m here?”
“No, but it’s okay!”
I told him to shush, as I didn’t want anyone to know I was over. He started laughing, thinking it was silly of me to be so discreet.
“Juan, are you home?” I heard a man yelp.
“Yeah, I’m in here!” he shouted back. “With a friend!”
I started sweating so hard and was so mortified that we weren’t alone.
We started having sex again, him even grunting really loudly. I was super insecure, as his host family could hear everything. I told him to finish it up.
When I started getting dressed, I headed out the door. Juan followed.
“Why don’t you tell your friend to come meet us!” they said, as I ran through the back door. “It’s not like we don’t know what ya’ll did in there!”
One of my closest friends and I were out for a wild summer night. I’m not sure if it was the heat, the cocktails, or the fact that I was newly single and too eager to mingle, but somehow, we found ourselves at an orgy. We were both on Grindr and the same guy messaged us to join his merry group of horny cuties.
Neither one of us normally does this kind of thing, but we decided to say
fuck it” and join the party. All was well with some foreplay, until one guy showed up that the owner of the apartment really liked and we were all kicked out for them to have an intimate early am romp session.
To be honest, I was a bit relieved and ready to head home. However, my friend in a moment of people-pleasing suggested everyone head to his apartment to continue the party. He instantly regretted it, remembering his mom was visiting on his living room couch for the night.
He begged me to come even though I told him I was over it. During the long cab to the Bronx—yes, he lives all the way in the Bronx—he starts to fill in our new friends that there might be someone home. The long drive with this new information made the group start to question their decision. We got to his place, scurried into his tiny bedroom, and no one felt sexy.
It felt extremely awkward… especially when mom came knocking. He was mortified, I was hysterically laughing, and the boys exited in a huff. I wound up spending the night (ergh, early morning?) watching Bravo, giggling about the whole thing, and passing out. Neither one of us attended an orgy again.
Who peed in my wastebasket?
In 2011, when Hurricane Irene hit the East Coast everyone thought it was going to do some major damage in NYC. I was huddled up in my apartment alone all day but by 7 pm I had eaten all my emergency provisions (a box of pop tarts and a packet of bacon) and was bored out of my skull. I pushed through the torrents of rain to my favorite bar at the time, The Metropolitan.
Surprisingly, it was open and there were a handful of people there. As the storm raged outside we drank, danced, and agreed that if the world was ending we were glad to be in such fine company. A nice guy from my gym was there with his boyfriends. I had never met a throuple before and was intrigued. They invited me to go with them to a friend’s place.
We ran through the rain-swept streets, to a cute apartment near the waterfront. Inside there was a man and a woman. I assumed they were a couple but as the night went on and we drank more, he made it clear that he was interested in me. We had sex in his bed as the sky began to get light.
When I woke up much later I could tell from the light and the sounds outside, that it was past noon. I had to pee really bad! I pulled on my pants and went to the bathroom but someone was using it. I waited for what seemed forever but the door stayed closed.
I went back in to the room where last night’s host was still snoring away. I was in a state of panic when I saw the empty waste basket near his desk. I made my decision in a second and pissed into it for what felt like forever. It made a loud hissing sound. I kept looking towards the bed, worried he would wake up and be like, “What the hell are you doing? Were you raised by wolves?”
He didn’t stir. I quickly dressed and without looking back I bolted from the apartment. The rain had stopped. There were some downed trees branches and lots of rubbish blown about, but for all appearances it looked like NYC had survived yet another disaster. To this day I wonder if the guy from that night ever tells people about the weirdo who peed in his waste basket.
Adventurous and Abroad
A few years ago, I spent a few months living in Asia for a study abroad program. Working by day and visiting a variety of clubs by night. It wasn’t uncommon for me (being one of the few Caucasians and pretty good looking,IMO) to draw the eyes of some of the females who were also inhabiting the same club as me. One night I was lucky enough to hit it off really well with a girl and we started spending time together. Eventually, I asked her on a date which ended with us returning to my residence to do the dirty.
Right before we could start she asked me to grab a towel, which caught me slightly off guard as I was wearing a condom and I wasn’t sure what mess would really be created. However I grabbed a towel and handed it to her and she looked at me and said: “thanks, I’m on my period and don’t want to stain your sheets”. Mind you I’m staying in a shared hotel room with a friend on some white sheets. Needless to say, we went about having fun with our night and the towel did close to nothing to prevent blood from getting anywhere. Which wasn’t ideal but really didn’t bother me, I was just happy to be included.
Moving forward to the next day, I had a few great interactions as the fallout to my actions. The first was my roommate returning home around 8-9 a.m. and yelling “what the hell did you do?” as he caught sight of the blood-stained bed. The second being, seeing we were staying in a hotel room service came by to clean the room and without question, they replaced my sheets. However, the hotel manager must’ve contacted the staff running the study abroad program I was apart of.
All 25 students studying abroad including myself got a message along the lines “if anyone is ever hurt, please let us know”. Which started a conversation in the student group chat about who might be hurt and what that might be about, and me getting ousted to everyone about my sexual activity.
Sex Shop Newb
As a transgender male, I never had the experience of having sex “the normal way”. It was strictly oral or fingering. But, it wasn’t until my girlfriend and I were going on a trip that I decided to buy a strap on. I had an early shift the day I decided to buy one so, I went after work. I went to a place called Romantic Depot and after contemplating whether to go in or not for 5 minutes, I finally opened the door.
With my luck, I was the only one inside which made it even more intimidating. I was greeted by a very friendly woman who asked “What can I help you with today?” I was so nervous, I poured my heart out and said “So I’m transgender and I want to buy a strap on but I have no idea which one so can you help me?” She laughed and said okay and showed me everything in the store. She showed me the best harnesses and best dildos to start off with. She showed me one that was 9 inches and I quickly steered away from it. “That’s huge!” I said but she quickly said back to me “But everyone is trying to bust a nut right?” I laughed but still declined.
When we finally agreed on a size and harness I wanted, I bought it. After I left, I couldn’t believe I spent $80 on this. I pulled my phone out and called my girlfriend and without even saying hello I said “So, I bought it.” She laughed because she knew exactly what I bought. I asked her to come over after work because my parents were on vacation. I rushed home and I searched up YouTube videos on how to put on the harness because I was lost. When I finally figured it out, I put it in my drawer and waited for my girlfriend to get to my house. When she got there, we talked briefly and then she asked me “So, where is it?” I wearily said “In my drawer” She walked over to it and took it out and laughed because the strap on was white and I’m black. “It was the only one they had that wasn’t huge! I wasn’t trying to kill you.” She said it was fine. I put it on and I asked “So how do you do this?”
After being intensely frustrated for 5 minutes, I said “I’m just going to search this up online because I can’t be bothered” I quickly searched in “Sex positions with pictures” and showed them to her. “We can do this one maybe?” She laid down on her back and I tried to get on top of her and I yelled “Cramp!” My girlfriend laughs at me and says “You’re so old” This was a lot harder than I thought. Eventually, we finally got into it and it ended up being a really good experience despite the difficulties prior. Using a strap on is extremely tiring. You could definitely lose some weight using it. But, if I had to do it again, I wouldn’t change a thing.”
Umm… come again?
After moving back into the dorms early one semester, I decided I wanted to spice my night up. I want to say this was 2018, I came back to my dorm and had about two days before the rest of my suitemates came in. Suddenly, this guy hsst me up. After chatting for awhile, we decided to meet in my dorm. He was a muscular Nigerian guy and as we began to have great sex abruptly he says, “I’m going to get you pregnant.” A record scratch goes off in my brain. Wait a minute, I was mentally freaking out because, I’m a guy I don’t know if that was supposed to be a turn on or he was just caught up in the moment.
This is a story of an embarrassing sexual encounter, (but also about self-worth). There was this really hot six foot five light skin guy from Washington Heights who played basketball and resembled the actor Michael Ealy.
He had me just as shook as Michael Ealy’s role in color girls. I was up one late night really bored with nothing really to do so I decided to log into this app named Jack’d and this hidden profile with no profile picture hit me. I usually don’t even waste my time with hidden profiles just off of the simple fact is that I don’t have time to call Nevs & Max from Catfish.
Here I am ignoring Charles Darwin’s theory of natural selection. I know we have all heard the stories of people being kidnapped, raped, robbed, and blasé blasé end is also extra sketchy for people of the LGBT community because we really don’t have a safe space to meet not even on gay apps. After all, you hear stories all the time! Anywho.
I said all that to say I still ignored all of those signs just because I was simply bored and also it’s been a couple of months that I have been with anyone. I decided to just entertain this conversation to see where I would even go talking ain’t never hurt anybody right? I told him that I will no longer continue to talk to him even though he kept saying and insisting about how good-looking he was, he finally sent me a photo of what he looked like and asked me would I come over and cuddle. As I was battling if I should go or not, he messaged stating he would pay for my Uber.
So you know, I take a bath, I’m squeaky clean and hop into my waiting cab. I get to the address and am in awe…he looks just like the pictures. As I am still trying to get over the fact that he is not a catfish, we head up to the second floor where his bachelor pad awaits. He told me to get comfortable so I sat on his bed and he turned on the TV. Out of everything to watch, he picks The Walking Dead, which is a complete mood-killer. He begins to feel up on me, and as the mood begins to set he asks if I want music. Of course I say yes, as he turns on the music I expected some Marvin Gaye and Chardonnay, some Luther Vandross but “What A Time to Be Alive” by Drake and Future begins to fill the room.
As he began to pull out a condom from a drawer, I quickly came up with the first excuse I could think of. I told him that my grandmother needed me. I ran out of there, faster than you can say “Jumpman.”
The Doctor’s In
I am in my apartment on 5th avenue in New York City getting ready to head over to this man’s apartment for a hookup. I hop into my Uber and when I get there, this handsome man reveals himself from behind the door wearing a pair of scrubs. Immediately, he asks “Are you into some foreplay?” I respond saying “Of course! I’m always down!” It’s a given that, since he was wearing scrubs, it was going to be doctor related, I just didn’t know to what extent.
As I step in he reveals to me that he is actually a doctor in real life. I think, wow what a healthy way to get this out. Instead of with patients of course, I’m here to support him and play out his fantasy. He’s very sexy, muscular, and has dark hair. I won’t say I have a type but I was sold. We walk in after greetings and he says, “What brings you in today?” As he grabs me by the hips and lifts me onto his kitchen counter. Hesitating, because I’m not too familiar with roleplay, he questions “Oh your leg hurts?” And I respond, “Oh yeah it totally hurts.” “Let me see where it hurts.” the doctor says as he begins pushing around on my leg. I wait a second and then wince and cough pretending to be in pain. “Oh there! Oh my God let me see what is wrong.” he says eagerly. He continues to tough my leg, turning it around everything is very clinical. Eventually he comes to the conclusion that my leg is broken. I’m like, “Are you serious? It’s my leg.” He responds: “Yeah, I am serious. We’re definitely going to have to put you into a cast.”
He stands up and the next thing I know, he goes into his kitchen cabinet and gets the actual materials out to create a cast on my leg. He spends the next 15-minutes plastering my entire leg all the way above my knee. While he is casting up my leg, I am just so flabbergasted by the fact that this is happening to me and the cast has made me immobile. I honestly felt safe so after the cast is on when he says, “Why don’t you lie down, like relax a little?” I let him whisks me into the bedroom and where I lie down with this plastered cast on me for the next 30 minutes.It was ridiculous and hilarious, something that I’ve never done before. After we finish having sex that was satisfying for both of us, he takes me back to the kitchen. He takes out a pair of giant cast removal shears and removes the cast in its entirety. When it’s completely off my never-broken-to-begin-with leg, I plant a kiss on his cheek and he sends me on my way. Long story short, I never went back for another “doctors appointment.”
Come and Go
Okay, so let me preface this story with the fact that I didn’t have sex in a long time at this point — like, a long time. So, I finally got to hook up with this girl that I was seeing, and things got pretty intense. And before she could even touch me, I came in my pants. This happened not once, but twice during the day. It’s funny now though because me and that same girl have been together for about four years now.
One time, me and this guy were fooling around in bed. And then, without any warning, I fart. Loudly. We just sat in silence for a solid 30 seconds before bursting into laughter. But, we don’t see eachother anymore… maybe it was the fart that chased him off?
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